I have been wondering for quite some time about this. Usually in social situations when I’m talking with somebody (especially with a girl) I am too conscious and my brain stops working when talking with them especially when we’re making eye contact. So i’ve been thinking if imagining myself from the 2nd person’ eyes and then acting accordingly in order to take the conversation I want it to go – does this help? I really wanna know if anyone here as thought about or practised this and if it really is the legendary secret of nailing social situations and appear more charismatic.