[Tip] Everyone’s just trying to protect their own ego

Before interpreting other people’s coldness or stand-offishness as a judgement of you, think of them as people with their own insecurities and anxieties, which may explain their behavior.

Situation: Go to a party and no one’s talking to you.
Automatic interpretation: I’m all alone and people are judging me.
Better interpretation: People don’t want to approach me and get rejected. I should do them a favor and approach them instead.

Situation: Someone you’re talking to seems distracted.
Automatic interpretation: What I’m saying isn’t important enough. They want to get rid of me.
Better interpretation: They are self conscious and nervous about talking to new people.

Of course, sometime it really is you being creepy blah blah blah. But I think this line of thinking can shift your mindset from “What is this person’s valuation of me?” (which creates anxiety) to “How can I put this person at ease and make them feel secure with themselves?”