My boyfriend M20 and I F20 have been together for about a year and 4-5 months. This is the longest relationship either of us have had. We also live together.
He is in love with my apparent “thick thighs” and my butt which I think I just have from genetics. I have small boobs which he likes.
For the past three weeks I’ve been getting super into the gym, working out and beating records. I go every day or every two days at the least and try to beat my records by at least a little bit. I’m starting to build muscle on my arms and my legs are getting quite toned like they were years ago.
I talk to him about my fitness journey often, but he isn’t all that proud of me. Instead, hes upset with me. He says that I’m “losing my thighs and butt” and warns me that my boobs are getting smaller too. Hes upset that I don’t have thick thighs for him to squish and cuddle with along with a big butt to squish and smack. He says if I have too much muscle that it will gross him out because I’ll look manly and he won’t be able to be with me. He knows that I like his long hair and he threatened to cut his hair if I “lose my butt”.
I need to be working out to prepare for the Police PARE test but he still has these opinions. Hes accepting of my future career path because he sees how much money it makes where we live, but he is still judging my body.
How do I go about this?
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Sounds like it’s time you break up with him. It’s great he accepts your future career path, but it’s a shame he’s judging you by your appearance. Sounds like he care more about how you look than your personality and what type of person you are. He should be in your corner supporting you more on your fitness journey to get ready for your police PARE test (also good for you and good luck on that!) but instead is getting mad you’re not looking the way he wants you to look just for his pleasing. I’d say if he continues this attitude, you don’t need him. Find someone who will support your career path, fitness goals, appearance and more! Not just someone who only supports what they want. You’re so young as well and have so much time in the future to find the right person for you!
You keep working out and if he no longer wishes to keep seeing you, he can date someone else. Last thing you want is a guy who is only dating you for your physical features.
I admire you. You sound like you’re doing great things for yourself. Think of it in a way that a very fit wife has a baby and she’s changed afterwards. She’s insecure, her husband tells her she’s beautiful no matter what. That’s love. That’s life.
You are doing this to prepare yourself for a career. It’s also very good for your health. Let him cut his hair, that’s on him. Could it also be insecurity on his part that you could be attracting others attention?
You get to do whatever you’d like with your own body. If he doesn’t like that, he can kick rocks.
Hold on, how do you live together only after a year????
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