Do you think that your partner should say ‘i love you’ everyday to you? why? Or why not?

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1. I think that is up to the individuals within the relationship. My husband and I do simply because you just never know when that will be the last time you have to say it to eachother.

2. Yes because otherwise I’ll think she hates me and wants to dump me 😭😭😭

3. No, but he does anyway. I don’t really want to hear it because it gets over used I like when people do or say other things

4. Yes, multiple times if possible. We also kiss every time one of us leaves the room. You never know if it’ll be your last opportunity show your affection. People die all the time, and our little human lives are too short.

5. I think this is dependent on the relationship and those in it. Some people absolutely need to and expect to hear an I love you daily. Some people can go a solid week without an ounce of concern because they just know their partner loves them.

6. In my relationship, yes. If they feel it, they should express it. We both appreciate expressing our love to each other, so “I love you” is a free flowing, perfectly normal thing we say to each other multiple times a day.

   Other people’s in other relationships may have other preferences, and that’s entirely fine by me.

7. yes, kinda stinks when you feel like they’re just saying it to say it tho

8. Those three words should not ever be said out of obligation. When you genuinely feel it, say it.

9. Only if he wants to, I don’t want him to force it.

10. I want my partner to say it when they want to. It shouldn’t be turned into an obligation.

11. He says it about 5 times a day as do I. Not out of obligation but when we’re feeling it.

12. Should? No. If they want to? Yes. Do I require it?. No.

13. Nope. I would say it if given a good reason to, but I feel like saying it multiple times a day would make it lose some of the potency. Also, couples who say it constantly might continue repeating it out of habit, even after they’ve fallen out of love. What a way to tarnish such lovely words!

    If I know the person loves me and they know I love them, then I trust that they will continue to love me. Words are cheap and I am not the kind of person who needs constant affirmation. They can show me they love me, that’s all I need.

14. I love it when he says it but it’s not mandatory. After 22 years, I get the feeling that he loves me even if he doesn’t verbally say it.

15. It depends. For some people, words of affirmation are very important. Others it comes from the everyday things they do rather than say

16. i think he should say it every time he feels like it, i like it when it happens casually like i would be doing the stupidest thing to make him laugh and he would say it and make me blush 🥺

17. Actions speak louder than words. It’s nice to hear it every now and then. Love language is much stronger.

18. They should be said when it feels right.
    Saying that. My husband and I do say it daily, because we do love each other and it’s important to us to make sure we each know.

    I’ve previously had a bf that told me it shouldn’t be said too often because then the word loses meaning. And I think that’s bull.

    For me, I want 1. My husband to know 2. If anything happened to either of us, you’d never regret saying it too much.

19. Not “should”

    But I like to say it whenever I feel it. Could be once a day or every couple hours! You never know when it might be the last thing you say to someone.

    And I’d like to hear it from my partner whenever they feel it and mean it, too.

20. Nope. Too much.

21. There’s no “should”. As others have said, it depends on your relationship and preferences. My husband and I say it at least 10 times a day, but other people might find it too much.

22. I’d rather they didn’t, to be honest, but if they wanted to it wouldn’t be a big problem or anything. I’m just more of a words over actions/words in an intentional way kind of person. I know people who say ‘I love you.” every time they end a conversation with their significant other. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with words repeated so frequently that they become kind of a habitual practice or mantra. It’s just not really my style. It feels too much like automation.

23. SHOULD is not a word I want in a relationship. I want my pertnet to tell me what they feel when they want to, not as a chore

24. No. Words are lip-service to me. I appreciate actions far more.

25. We say it at bed time, when one of us goes out or just when the mood takes us. We find it important because you never know if something is going to happen and we’d both want the last words said to one another to be words of love and kindness.

26. No, I don’t need much display of affection. I also don’t need lip service. I need a generally consistent feeling of respect and care. Hearing “I love you” doesn’t make any difference to me, though it’s nice to hear in very intimate situations where it feels genuine and special.

27. If they want to. Im more interested in whether or not they act like it.

28. My grandmother always told me to say “I love you” when you leave the house, because it may be the last time you see that person. And then in 2007 she passed unexpectedly at 53 in a car accident. So ever since then those words have really resonated with me.

29. No, he haven’t said that yet, we been together for years. He shows his love every day, that’s what matters.

30. “Should” is a weird way to word it. He should love me everyday if he is with me, which means he will say it everyday and he has multiple times everyday for 6 years so I would find it weird if he stopped.

31. I like it being said everyday. But if he didn’t love me then I’d not want him to say it at all.

    Of course I’d also want him to tell me he doesn’t love me anymore

    But the reason I like it said a lot is the following –
    I’m insecure and say it alot so having someone say it first or express themselves in that way helps me. (fucked up childhood issues)

    But more than that – I at least like to hear it before either I leave or the other person leaves the house. I know its stupid but it’s this thing where at least if something happens to either of us the last thing we said to each other was that we love each other. And it’s dumb. But I find that important.

32. I don’t expect it that often. I don’t need constant validation.

33. Every relationship is different, but I can’t quite imagine not saying and hearing: “I love you” multiple times a day. I see it as less of a precious resource to be distributed carefully, and more of an infinite supply of bricks we are adding to the foundation of our lives. I tell everyone I love (that I don’t live with) that I love them almost every time I talk to them. My partner hears it, and tells me it many times daily.

34. If you feel it, say it. I say it to my kids, my family even close friends every time we say goodbye.

    My husband died of a heart attack four years ago while I was at work. We spoke on the phone a few hours before. I know the last thing I said to him was “I love you.”

35. I say it every time I leave the house because I want to be sure that if something happens to me, the last thing my husband heard from me was I love you.

36. I don’t. It means more when it is said genuinely in the moment rather than just as a salutation or way to end a conversation.