Hi everyone,
I recently started graduate school and came in with old friends. We met a new person and she’s pretty nice. However, I’ve been noticing some things and don’t know if I’m overthinking the actions.
1. She asked me to do a cooking project and noted how she asked my old friends already and how they said no. We followed through but I paid for all the ingredients and she paid me back for one specific one. However she gave a gift so I wasn’t sure if it’s evened out?
2. She made a group chat without me that included my old friends and her only. Initially, I assumed it was because I had backed out in a get together and for better communication at the time. However, it seems like they’re texting in it still even though another group chat was made with me afterwards. When we were together alone, the new friend texted in it while askin about my relationship with old friends.
3. She was asking questions about traveling with the old friends in front of me. When one old friend was telling her to ask me, she just looked and the old friend ended up saying instead.
4. When I went up to greet her she asked what I wanted in front of people I never met.
I’m not sure if it’s the new friends dry humor at times because she can make remarks like that. I’m not sure how to handle it because we’re adults. I really appreciate my old friends but it seems like they enjoy her company. I stay cordial and make jokes but it’s been bothering me lately thinking about potential differences in treatment.
How should I improve? Should I say anything to the new friend or old friends?
Thanks for reading to the end!