I was single for a while and recently decided to explore my body. When I first started masturbating, as a teenager, I would only finger myself because that was the way I knew how to. I learned about clitoral stimulation and left fingering alone. I have had sex with multiple partners and have never reached an orgasm with them, mostly because I didn’t know how to with penetration. Now, I can make myself cum while using my vibrator on my clit and fingering myself. I hadn’t done this before and it gave me hope to be able to orgasm with a partner.
How can I reach this with a partner? What do I say to get them “in the right spot” without ruining the moment? I don’t really want to say something unsexy like “To the side, deeper, let’s do a different position”.
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It doesn’t have to be unsexy. “oh yes, a bit deeper, oh god you’re driving me crazy. Lean a bit that way and you’ll hit my spot {after he does} – oh fuck that’s it” Most people enjoy giving their partner pleasure, if you ask me to do something and then tell me that it works for you, that’s a huge turn on. And for the skeptical – the more your partner is turned on, and the more they orgasm, the more similar benefits you get.
have you thought of masturbating in front of them?
I think you are overthinking it. Go with the flow and guide your partner to please you. Some people find it hot.
Tell them. Show them. Be specific. Talk through it. Put the effort in up front and they’ll practice and eventually get good at it. Like anything else we show how we want things done.