Hi all,
I’m just trying to understand where this is going since I thought this was going well.
For context:
1. I (25M) Superliked her (22F), she messaged me asking what made me superlike, and she liked my response and casually flirted back.
2. After I got to exchange a few messages (about 5 on her part, paragraph messages mostly) I asked her if she has time on weekends since she spends the weekdays on campus which is about a couple hours away.
3. She replied saying definitely near future, followed by her telling me that she is looking for a relationship, andI acknowledged it & said I’m looking for the same.
At this point, I figured I could take the conversation off the app and gave her my number, which she agreed & reached out.
4. Been texting for a couple days, I got her engaged into texting (was every couple/few hrs but it’s been every 5~15 mins this evening) enough and asked if she wants to grab a nice meal together one day and she said “Maybe one day if things keep going well”
NOW, this shit’s buggin me more than it’s supposed to cuz we call know even the tiniest amount of hope OLD leaves us with haunts us the most.
Looking back at how the covo went, I feel like I had a chance to lock something in but blew it off by suggesting we grab a meal together “one day” instead of saying something like “Wanna do a dinner on xxxxday at x:xx PM?”
Since both of us are on the same page about our intentions of looking for a relationship, I don’t want to come off pushy. Idk if I should even ask her out again later this week, try to proceed with a phone call or a facetime call, or just simply give up lol
Am I overthinking or did I actually screw up yall lmao
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How many days have you guys been talking?
after she said #3, i would have responded with lets go out and see if theres something there. ….wait for her response…then say….so when are you free to be mine ;]…you were missing a bit flirting sexual tension banter. you had to move a little quicker. yes your “one day” was stupid. and you should’ve been talking to other women as well so you don’t feel the pressure of messing this up. they always gonna chase the guys who don’t put them on a pedestal. so you basically always have to be in a position to walk away. There’s a lot for you to learn from reading your post. I can recommend some YouTubers to watch, and I will say the more videos you watch, the more you will know what to do in XYZ situation 1—anthonyspade reactions 2. Manosphere highlights daily 3. Black Filipino TV 4. Legion of men 5. living a life of abundance. 6. casual bachelor 7. Fbe capital 8. Modern life dating 9. ReplicantPhish 10. Taylor the fiend 11. mtr (mediocre tutorials and reviews)
12. Tribe report 14. The celebrity junk 15. Oshay duke Jacksn 16. MJ get right 17. man reacts 18. better bachelor 19. amala ekpunobi 20. coach greg adams
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The funniest YouTuber here is living a life of abundance, so have your popcorn ready. If you want to go deep, check out MJ Get Right and Anthonyspade reaction videos from 1-2 years ago, and everyone else brings a unique flavor to teaching you about the dating scene with women. MJ has three videos with the word validate, after watching that i got laid on the same day. the only problem is, learning this stuff at 28yr instead of 18yr where i wish i knew it to have dated a lot more in my teens and early 20s. ;/
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In 6 months or less, your brain will generate all the answers you are looking for once you have enough information from all the videos you watched of every possible dating situation you saw
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If you drive, then try to play a few videos to listen to. You’ll learn a lot faster. Get a second phone like I did if you need to separate GPS from what you are playing.
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Lastly, read the comments under each video; you may learn a thing or two. I managed to create a mini “daily reminders” to read daily just from snatching solid comments that affected me in someway to move forward in life. anyways follow this and in a few months you’ll be a whole different animal.