I need opinions of the MEN

15 comments

1. Head is the cornerstone of the relationship

2. Anything sex related is between you and your partner. As a guy, I do not view receiving or giving head as required for either myself or a girlfriend

3. As a guy, you can definitely tell if your partner doesn’t enjoy doing it. In that case, I’d rather she didn’t. Should be pleasurable for both.

4. Not important at all in any way. If you’re going to do it then obviously it’s best to be great but it’s a bonus at most.

5. Nah, if you don’t want it, I wouldn’t want you to do it. Would expect the same from you though.

6. Head is a bonus tbh. As long as you take care of yourself and can cook, that’s enough for a man to be happy

7. 24yo M here.

   Generally men actually find oral less important than vaginal sex. It’s actually quite impressive to us when a woman can actually make us cum from oral.

   Oral is definitely positive thing to us and depending upon the attraction levels it can be essential in order to get started.

   We want it but the important thing to do is relax and be conscious of what you’re doing. Generally the sloppier the better but this has to be a combination of saliva and motion. Ask him what HE is in to. Don’t just go guessing. Educate yourself maybe even watch corn..

   Hope this helps.

8. Me personally sometimes head is better than sex but everyone is different. I’m not saying getting head is better than sex js. It nice to lay there getting head especially if she gives really good head. Don’t ever force someone to do something they not comfortable with. Chances are they have a good reason.

9. Extremely so. But only if you’re good at it and like it. It goes both ways. As forplay and all the way as well. In my opinion it’s better than intercourse

10. Most head I’ve received has been terrible. A couple of girls touched my penis and I was like wtf did they do that felt really different. But alas I was never with those specific women long enough to get the full experience.

11. Head is great but not super important

12. Everyone is allowed their own prioritize in a relationship. Some men might have it be a requirement for them, tohers mgiht care. Regardless, you sohuld enver do sometihng tha tmakes you uncomfortable or feel bad that you don’t want to do something for someone else.

13. M35 here – gonna be honest: Guys who give you the “Oh no sweetie, it is not important at all” are, in my opinion, full of it. They try to sound nice and “progressive” even though they most likely would love to be sucked.

    See, there is a huge difference between “Nah fellatio ain´t important” and “I don´t want my girl to do things she does not like to do”. See, I certainly agree to the latter: If you are not comfortable with oral sex, I won´t ask you for it or push you towards doing it. Sex needs to be consensual and quite honestly I also ain´t the type who enjoys forcing himself upon a woman.

    For me, sex is all about pleasure – and seeing my girl getting turned on, losing her control and eventually climaxing in toe-bending, thigh-shaking orgasms is awesome. So is oral sex – both ways actually: I love to give just like I love to receive. Sexually open and confident partners are a huge turn on – nothing´s worse than sleeping with a woman who moves as much as a boulder in a field: It gives me an idea that she, for whatever reason she is not willing to speak out, does not like having sex. A horrible feeling tbh.

    And there we touch something else: Communication is key. I met girls who were shy and wanted me to take the lead – cool, let´s do that and I´ll take it slow, asking you if you like X or Y or Z beforehand so you can let yourself fall and be relaxed. I also met girls who were really aggressive in bed and just blew me away (pun intended!). Love that, too.

    Best thing to do is to cut out all the phony crap just meant to deceive people – so many guys put on their nice guy mask because they think that being direct about their sexual desires makes them seem “needy” or like “perverts”. It is ridiculous, because if there is one thing women really deserve: Men who are confident and rest well in their masculinity. Without being dicks or manipulators/abusers, of course.

    Anyway: Sex is about teamplay. If you, OP, don´t want to do oral sex, that is your choice and men got to respect that. Still I´d say that the very vast majority of us loves fellatio – no matter if we openly admit it or beat around the bush because we´re too scared to honestly sit in our masculine energy.

14. Yes, it’s important

    Why are you asking?

15. Oral and vaginal are absolute necessities for me as a man. I mean, you do you! And I don’t want anyone to do anything they don’t want. But if you don’t want to, we should not date.