So, to put you in context, I am 19M, and since High School, I don’t have any friend because I used to accept invitation and then not showing up; resulting in people around me never inviting me to activities and parties. Now in University, in a new city, I struggle to make new friend (I am not going out, not affiliated to any group activities etc.). I am that kind of boring guy that people see but don’t take any action to talk to (i think). But it wasn’t the case in the past ! I am someone very open-minded and very talkable, and extravert everytime I was chatting with someone people.
* The fact of being always at home for YEARS, litteraly changed me, to the point that I don’t know how to create new friendships, nor what to do with someone I start to talk with. Recently, I met a guy during an online class that I want to discover more, and create something with. At first, I tried to ask him questions about the lesson just to make a contact, and everytime I have a question, i text him. Now I want to meet him IRL and try to socialize. I do not consider myself shy (If I want to go to someone and randomly propose or ask something, I CAN !), but I have that fear to get into a One-sided friendship where I am the only one interested (got into those a lot during my childhood)
So, now I plan on proposing that guy to hang out but was wondering, what do friends do ? Where can I propose him to go at first ? To do what ? Seems like he lived in that city for decades and might have been to lot of places I haven’t been at.
Please, HELP ME. I am ready to put some effort into making something that I hope will be durable.
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