Hi! I (21m) went on a date with a girl (23f) and it went really well overall! We smiled, laughed, and were very sweet with each other the whole day, I felt like I really got to connect with her and feel a genuine bond with her. However, when it came down to sex I feel like I fell short of the bar; I made her feel good sure but idk if I made her cum and my asthma sort of kicked in and idk if I lasted as long as she’d wanted. I woke up at 4am in a cold sweat because I keep getting paranoid about how I did compared to her past sexual partners. Keep in mind as well this is the first time we’ve had sex and she’s only the 2nd person I’ve ever had sex with. Is cumming the only goal? Is it the only way to measure the success of sex? These are the questions on my mind. I really like this girl and I wanna make sure I do good by her.
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You could just ask her. Did she seem cold/distant towards you after?
As a girl I havent finished any of the times I had sex with my boyfriend but he makes me feel good and the intimacy + seeing that I made him finish makes me satisfied. Getting a woman to finish is notoriously difficult so dont beat urself up over it especially if she is only the 2nd person u have had sex with 🙂
I think you are overthinking. The main way a man can mess up sex is by being selfish. As long as you are paying a lot of attention to her and her needs, you’re fine. The most important thing is that men tend to focus on the sex itself. Before and after is more important for most women. There should be a lot of making out and a lot of foreplay before you penetrate. After it’s done, a lot of cuddling and pillow talk.