M20, Im very introverted and shy. I have no friends on campus and the only people i talk to are my few friends ive had since middle school and im awakward arround them too. Im also awakward arround my family even at times. I dont think im ment to socialize and ive been ok so far but there is so much talk about “bettering myself”.
This might sound lazy but what will happen if i dont? Ive been ok so far in life being a hermit and i dont think i have the capacity to connect with others like a human should be able to. Socializing feels fake and unnatural to me and im very warry and cautious when somebody talks to me. Am i doomed if i dont change myself or am i ok being me?
Meeting new friends and maybe a SO one day sounds nice but i dont see it as possible given my temperment, i think i only care about me first and foremost
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Its all about meeting what you want. Not much matters in terms of socialising if you are satified. But if you like the idea of friends and other things, the best I can recommend you do is just try, worst case you’re still happy and satisfied with how things are now. Altrough this speech sounds less like being okay with it and worried that you are wrong for enjoying your life. The main problem is figuring out if you enjoy being alone, or are in it out of habit, and it seems like you got that figured out.