So much to my surprise, a girl actually matched with me on Tinder yesterday. I talked with her and asked if she wanted to go get some coffee with me sometime, and she actually said sure. So we exchange snaps, etc. So far, the plan is that I’m going to pick her up and we’ll go to some coffee place to hang out and talk, etc.
I’m genuinely extremely nervous for this though. I’m a 22 year old guy who has virtually no experience in dating at ALL. I’ve never been on a date before, never kissed, etc. I’m really worried this will turn her off and I’ll have to be up front about it with her since honesty is a good thing and it’s not like it wouldn’t become totally obvious on the first date. She is employed and working, whereas at the moment, I’m not working and am going to school full time (a bit worried that may become an issue for her as well, though it is kind of my fault that I’m not working).
Can I please have some advice for the first date? How is it even supposed to go? What do I talk with her about? What are good things to do on a date and bad things that I should avoid?
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Don’t try too hard, don’t fawn to her, don’t ask too many questions, don’t subcommunicate your lack of experience with women, don’t bring a flower. Do tease her, qualify her, challenge her, tell cool anecdotes, bounce her to another venue or for a walk if things are going well. Fgs Don’t tell her you’ve never been on a date before, or else you’ll be dead in the water. And try and sit on a comfy sofa on the same side as her, physical proximity is important
“I’ll have to be up front…” No, you don’t!!
There is no need to tell her and as a woman I’d prefer you didn’t. Lots of people get nervous, it’s ok. Try to enjoy yourself.
You matched so at least you know she likes the way you look. So just relax and make pleasant conversation. You should only expect you will both be pleasant to each other. If you both do that, you’ll start to get a good vibe or not. It is good to have a change of venue in mind if you’re having fun, walking distance preferred.