Don’t get me wrong, it is extremely attractive to me. I love how my partner looks when they do it for me. However, I get very little physical satisfaction. It’s like the idea turns me on but the practice doesn’t do much for me. I know they are doing it right but it feels more like a recreational massage than a sexual massage y’know?
Is it normally little physical satisfaction or am I just an exception? It’s ok if I am. I just want to know if it’s really “heaven on earth” for most people.
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There are good BJs, bad BJs and out of this world BJs.
Maybe you haven’t had the latter yet.
For me the best ones are a combo of styles , licking, deep throat, little hand work etc.
I’m not a massive fan, either. Thats okay
Are you circumcised? I found my partners who were seemed to physically react less than partners that weren’t. The difference were clear to me in terms of sensitivity and I think that plays a larger role than people give credit as circumcision reduces sensitivity in the penis
Same for me. I just look at it as a bit of foreplay. I’ve only ever cum from a blowie with one partner.
I do not find oral sex appealing. The more I respect a person the less I want them to do that. I told my wife once, I don’t want her to kneel but stand with me. Turns out she always felt like oral sex was a requirement and did it with others as a requirement and not a desire.
If she would tell me it gets her off when doing it I would be happy to oblige for her sexual pleasure but honestly I feel it is an insult to the person doing it.
Don’t ask me why I feel that way but I do.
I am not sure if you feel that way but it is something to consider, is it the feeling physically or emotionally? Sex is a skill, sure, but if this sex act is not doing it for you. That is 100 percent a-okay
I’m a man and hate bj. It does make me ejaculate, but I don’t feel any pleasure at all.
Different people feel and enjoy different things. It’s fine if you don’t like them. Sometimes things just don’t do “it” and that’s super normal.
i like the visuals but it hurts for me
Yeah, same, man. Never cum from oral, but working on it.
I too. Too ticklish. Nothing wrong. Different strokes for different folks.
My husband requires a very specific level of suction and a firm pressure from lips/tongue to cum from oral. For years I couldn’t get him to finish that way until we eventually figured out what works. Maybe you haven’t found the right combo of moves to get you there or you just don’t like it. It seems super common for men to not like it or not be able to cum from bjs.
I found the same with my ex and most partners after until my most recent few (including my current gf) did it for me. what that means is up to interpretation
Anyone who doesn’t enjoy bjs it’s bc you haven’t had a good bj. It’s honestly the best experience
Add some teeth. Works wonders
She is doing an okay job. I have had plenty from various partners and they vary widely. Some are just okay. Some are amazing. Could you ask her to use more saliva? Use her hand while she does it? Address specifically why it doesn’t feel great. Or maybe you aren’t sensitive for them.
You might not have had a great bj once, a saying I’ve heard around is “ There is a big difference between someone who wants to give a bj and someone giving a bj”.