I (26F, bisexual) am back on dating apps for the first time in almost a year. I don’t have a ton of dating experience.
(Sex is out of the equation on these dates until I commit to dating someone exclusively)
I met another 26F almost a month ago and have gone on three lovely dates with her. She expressed interest in a fourth date, which we haven’t scheduled yet.
In between dates 2-3, she went silent for a few days. I got pretty insecure and thought she was ghosting me, so I started talking to some of my other matches and set up two more dates with a 24M and a 25M this week.
I feel this weird guilt. I really like this girl, but I also know it’s way too early to ask her to date exclusively (she wants to take it slow), and I also don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket.
I don’t know if she’s seeing other people.
I’m afraid that I’m somehow going to get “caught” on these dates with these other guys, and be accused of “cheating” on her. I know this fear is stupid because we are not in a formal relationship, so I’m not cheating on her. I was cheated on in my previous relationship, so I guess I’m afraid of becoming that person.
I guess I’m looking for reassurance that what I’m doing is ok. If it’s not ok, then I’m looking for advice on how to better navigate this situation.
2 comments
Its only wrong if you’re lying or hiding or cheating.
Just make sure you’re aware that consent to sex needs to be “informed consent ” and if you have an ly doubt at all about your current STD status you need tindiwclose that to your partners so they can make an informed choice.
Other than that it’s no big deal. Dont ask dont tell. And dont fool around if you’re committed monogamously
If you like her and she wants to take it slow. And you want to be with her. Then yes, you are in the wrong here.