He says he hasn’t felt desired by me in a long time and thinks i’m not attracted to him. This hurt so bad to hear. I always thought I gave him a lot of attention, kisses, hugs, snuggling, etc. I always make sure to hold him, rub his arm, caress his face, tell him how handsome/cute/good looking he is. I asked him to tell me what i could do better to make him feel more desired and we just got in a huge fight because he kept saying “I don’t know!” and i started crying and he yelled at me to stop crying so now i just genuinely don’t know what to do. I told him i feel inadequate as a girlfriend now and i feel helpless cause he won’t tell me what i can do better and now he’s mad because he says i’m turning it into a pity party for myself and i’m genuinely not trying to.. What things can a woman do for their boyfriend to make them feel desired besides sex? And what things can a woman do for their boyfriend to make them know that they are attracted to him?
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I know you said, besides sex but maybe try initiating more often? Try planning more dates?
It’s ridiculous of him to not at least give you an idea of what he needs more of.
Could be a difference in your “Love Language” types. Might explore that idea with him and see what “type” he tends toward.
It could also just be that he’s still young and not ready for a relationship.
“I asked him to tell me what i could do better to make him feel more desired and we just got in a huge fight because he kept saying “I don’t know!” and i started crying and he yelled at me to stop crying”
He sounds like a manipulative jerk.
There isn’t much you can do. I wouldn’t be saying anything to him. Do your own thing.