I’m a 27 m looking to date again. I’ve tried multiple dating apps and get 0 likes and 0 matches. Been on them for 3 weeks now. How do I actually go about dating in this day and age? I don’t drink so I wouldn’t go to a bar. Idk I just feel hopeless lol. Any advice is appreciated. Or if there’s a better dating app I haven’t heard of
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Use photofeeler to improve your pictures, changed a lot for me.
How many likes have you sent out? It took me liking 100+ people on two different apps to get a couple of matches that went anywhere past a couple of introductory messages – and I am conventionally quite good-looking.
Also, photos are crucial. When someone views your profile and looks at your photos, what kind of life do they imagine you having? You want to put photos showing you doing things you are passionate about, not just random facial photos (not telling the person anything about who you are), or awkward photos (like you holding a giant fish you just caught: cool, but not very romantic).
Considering how many likes ladies on these apps get, if the first impression they get from glancing at your profile is anything but, “Wow, this looks intriguing!”, chances are 99% of them will just instantly move on. It is like being a job recruiter at Google and scrolling through thousands of applications from unqualified people searching for the few gems: if you do not shine off the bat, your application will be instantly put in the discard pile.
Go do something you love doing. Look around at the other people there doing it too. Pick one. Start a conversation about the thing you both love doing.