After one week of using Tinder I have almost 200 matches which lead to over 20 phone numbers for off the app texting. Out of the 20+ new phone contacts from Tinder I couldn’t get even ONE of the girls to meet up for coffee. A lot of them seemed very interested to meet but kept making up excuses such as “oh I cant meet anytime this week I have work,” or “I am taking 5 classes right now, can we meet next week?” and its a Tuesday! Or “I cant meet tomorrow, friday or saturday because I am booked with friends” and they keep postponing the initial meet for next week and when next week comes around, they postpone again if not they ghost. Some later admit to me that they aren’t actually looking to date anyone at the moment. It seems that women aged 18-24 are incredibly flaky on Tinder. They will behave like they just matched with their future husband and act all excited, and then on a whim they disappear. Many admit that they aren’t actually looking for a relationship but just downloaded the app out of boredom.
I don’t get why they give me their phone number when they wont meet for coffee. They either seem way too busy to even have a relationship, or they admit that they aren’t looking for one.
Some don’t provide an explanation and simply ghost. Its super frustrating and makes me want to only match with older women who are more serious. I cant get even ONE of these girls to meet for coffee. Are any other young men having a similar experience? If the apps don’t work, what’s left?
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Stop using Tinder. Tinder is mainly an app for meaningless hookups and for people just seeking validation. As a bi girl I would never use Tinder to find men but women for casual sex. 99% of them either want an ego boost or meaningless sex. And even I, have never successfully met up with a women on Tinder before. But I have with Hinge and Bumble. I am looking for a serious relationship with a man right now, but open to casual hookups with women until then. I’ve been on several dates from Bumble and Hinge. Just use those two apps, and talk to girls who are specifically looking for relationships. Girls who say “I don’t know” on their profiles are likely just seeing validation or an ego boost.