I often find myself talking about the regular stuff, e.g., “what school do you go to?”, “how do you know _____?”, hobbies, etc.
Sometimes I’ll throw in a little line to tease them to break ice and to make things awkward but I don’t really know how to go on from there. At some points when someone new and I cover the basics of introduction, it just kind of dries out.
If you’re with a person you’ve been introduced to or just meet somebody new, what do you typically talk about and how?
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Hobbies, music, tv shows, places they have traveled or want to, past jobs, Bucket Lists, etc.
Always be yourself. Yes, asking about interests and hobbies could be good. But you can also observe maybe something about what theyre wearing like the style or color and compliment them like “hey thats a cute top. Whered you get it?” or maybe noticing a keychain they have on their bag that you can ask them about instead of the usual small talk. People usually like getting complimented so it can help break the ice 🙂
I recently met someone new, no common friends, and only today we went through pan flutes, unicorn heads, punk, sleeping with your boss, and Lamborghinis.
So… I guess whatever floats the conversation? Or if it’s awkward, hobbies or common interests maybe?
Just ask them a question, listen to their response, identify something that you wish to ask about further during their response, ask , listen to their response, identify something, ask question, listen, identify, ask. Listen.
I used to get very anxious about that, not knowing what to talk about with people, thinking I would be a failure if I couldn’t become super good at conversation with absolutely everyone, but the most relieving thing that I learnt is that : It’s ok to not talk. We can’t click with everyone. With the people we can potentially be friends with, topics emerge naturally. If not, then we’re probably meant to be just mere acquaintances, and that’s ok. If they talk to me I’ll just answer but I won’t make extra effort to maintain the conversation going.
Just be yourself, you can’t list the topics you would raise whenever meeting a new person.
I tell them to stop talking to me.
I usually try to ask as much questions abt a topic we taking about fr. Ask a bunch of questions about their hobby. People love to talk about themselves.