My (20F) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t spend time with me

I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for a year and a month. He does competitive gaming and works full time, I’m a student and work full time.

In the beginning, he’d plan a date and we’d go out each weekend. He’d get me flowers or candy and we’d talk 24/7 about anything. Important, but less important, to note, we usually had sex either once a week or every other week. In July I moved in with him, and I think that’s what killed things.

We stopped going out all together. If we did go out, it’d be to his favorite arcade, where I would stand and watch him play games all night, or to one of his friends’ houses, where I’d stand and watch them play games all night. About once a month, we go out of town overnight/up to 4-5 days to a gaming competition. I stand next to him and watch him play games for multiple days in a row.

Now, none of this bothered me. Was I having fun? No. But I understood that if the roles were reversed, I’d want him there for me. I was on the phone with my dad the other day, and he said he didn’t see us lasting long because we never do anything I want to do. I love halloween and scary stuff, and mentioned to my boyfriend that I’d love halloween horror nights, but when we went to Orlando, we didn’t go or do anything except his gaming stuff.

Once my dad pointed it out, it did bother me. I asked my best friend (22F) about it, and she said he needs to spend more time with me, whether that be dates or just watching TV that I want to watch, or cooking, or anything. I said I felt bad asking him to do that, because he already does so much for me in terms of dealing with my mental and physical health. Sometimes I’ll get really depressed and he’ll cheer me up, and sometimes I’ll ache and hurt so he’ll do my laundry. She says that is the bare minimum- and I agree.

Something that’s been really hurting me lately is the realization that we haven’t had sex in a little over a month. I’ve tried to initiate, but it seems he’s just not interested. He also hasn’t initiated at all. When I get ready for work in the morning, he’ll say I look good, but doesn’t seem excited by me at all anymore.

Today, we went to the Taylor Swift Eras Tour movie. I love taylor swift, and had mentioned that I regret not going to her concert, so he planned us going to see the movie as an anniversary present. Let’s note that this (+dinner at a pizza place) was the only anniversary present he thought of, while I spent weeks making a scrapbook of almost every date and event we’ve gone to in the past year (+ a cardigan he said he wanted in december of last year, which I remembered and got for him.)

We’ve gotten home from the movie, and I’ve talked about which parts I really liked, things I didn’t care for, etc. He says that she didn’t play his two favorite songs, so it “kinda sucked.” He did also engage in conversation with me about the setlist and her dancers, so I feel fulfilled in that aspect. As soon as we got home, he plopped into his computer chair and got on a discord call with his buddies and is now back to playing games.

I don’t know how to ask him to spend more time with me or that I’d like to go on dates with him. I don’t know how to bring up that I feel unwanted because we haven’t had sex in so long. Is this just what relationships are like after the honeymoon phase? I truly believed we were going to be together forever, but I just can’t imagine the rest of my life being supporting his interests and not getting the same support for mine.