So I’ve (28M) have been in a relationship with my first gf (23F) for about 3 months now. Everything has been going great so far. She’s thoughtful, direct, doesn’t play games, and has many of the same values and interests that i do. It’s been really nice.
The only thing that has been bugging me is that she has a difficult time asking more questions when it’s about me. She could ask how my day was or I can talk about something that surprised me from a game or show but she quickly changes the subject to something else or to herself instead of asking more about it.
Ive communicated to her before that I feel more loved whenever she asks me questions, and it’s clear she’s made an effort to do so but I’m not sure if I should let her know that it still doesn’t feel like it’s enough or continue to be patient and give her time.
I hope I’m not being too picky here, because other than that I really do love everything else about her. I’m just wondering how much time I should give her and what I could do to help? It probably doesn’t help too much that she’s pretty introverted and has a job where she doesn’t have to interact with a whole lot of people, so that’s probably to why she’s not too good at conversations to begin with
Tl;Dr I’ve been with my gf for about 3-4 months now and Ive been having difficulty at times at being okay with her not asking too many questions about me. Just wondering how much time I should give her and what I could do to help?
Also sorry if this has been posted already, for some reason it was removed
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This can often be a family difference! Some people are brought up with the idea that it’s rude and nosy to ask the other person a bunch of questions, and that if you had more to say, you’d just say it. And some people are brought up with the idea that you ask the person questions to draw more out. How long ago did you talk to her about this, and in what way are her efforts not enough?