There are lots of posts like this one, but I have not found a solution, yet.

I (f19) have been fwb with a guy for nearly a year and its my first long time sexual relationship. However, he has never made me cum.

He does go down on me, but i don’t feel much. It does not feel good or bad. Sometimes his fingers feel uncomfortable in me (probably because I’m not wet enough) but i don’t feel much pleasure from my clit even though he uses his tongue or fingers.

I do masturbate and sometimes can cum within a minute. I showed him the technique, but somehow when he does it, it doesn’t feel pleasurable.

He oftentimes makes me squirt during doggy, but i don’t cum and don’t even feel when I squirt.
Even intercourse doesn’t work for me. One time, when we used lots of lube, it felt amazing and I was close, but it wasn’t enough.

man i just wanna cum once :/

Has anyone experienced this or can help?

9 comments

  1. Sleep with someone who can make you cum. A guy who gives priority to pleasing his partner first would usually do that. A guy who is unselfish.

  4. From your post it seems like youre just ‘there’ and waiting for him to make you cum

    Participate. Find a position where you can take the lead and do what works for you.

  5. If this isn’t working for you, and you really want a fwb, let him go and find one where you rock each others’ worlds.

  6. How much effort is he putting in to it? He needs to focus on nothing but watching your body language and sounds you make. He may never be able to emulate how you do it for yourself, but with time, effort, focus and determination he might just find a different path to your orgasm.

    It I were to be in his place, I would start really slow. Like if we were to be cuddled up in bed. I’d very lightly run my finger tips all over your body, back, stomach, all of it, watching intently, looking for goosebumps, a squirm, gasp, heavy breath or even the slightest stir. I’d purposely stay clear of your nipples and vagina. This tease would take maybe 30 minutes minimum, up to an hour or more, depending on how you are reacting. I’d kiss your neck, maybe bite it lightly, or your ear, and would close in on your more volatile areas. You should be writhing and flooded before I start giving you what you need. You should be begging for me to touch you deeper and I’d give you a little taste. I’d start the process over again, but with your vagina. Same attentiveness, studying your bodies language. Spend as much time needed to find the spots, combination of them, speed, pressure, using tounge, fingers, ect, to see what gets heavier abd more frantic reactions. If I was on your best spots, at the best speed and pressure and if you were close, I’d keep doing JUST that, reading you, and adjusting as needed to bring you closer and closer until you basically shatter and lose control, shaking, unable to speak.

    I have no clue if this would work for YOU, it’s hypothetical . Women who seem to have trouble cumming from a partner often need this level of attention to get there. Sometimes I have had this process go on for up to 3 to 4 hours. Once you get the first one to happen you can hone your skills to ensure you can cum over and over again if possible. The key is to never stop exploring. After 3 years I was still finding new techniques. If he is willing, you might be able to get him explore you like that.

    Making out with you while at edge of orgasm might help you reach the peak

    He can try basically pounding, rubbing, putting pressure on your G spot with his hand while lightly flicking your clit with his tounge or his thumb . (The screenshot works)

    Tell him everything you possibly can think of that even does the littlest thing to you.

    Maybe nothing I wrote would work for you. Maybe you hate a tease or a slow build. Everyone’s different. Maybe you need him to straight scoop you up and put you on the kitchen counter and just frantically pound you until you have a screaming shaking eruption. If he’s willing to put the time and effort in, I feel he can unlock you. If he isn’t really attentive or selfish, low effort ect, he might not ever get you there. Some women literally can never orgasm. Some absolutely can not by a partner. And that is ok too.

  7. Also, try to get into a meditative state. Tune out EVERYTHING and just relax, focus on your pleasure. Try to stay in the MOMENT, not your goal, or the past. Deep breaths. Eyes closed. (Unless watching turns you on). Let yourself get lost in the feeling.

  8. Have you tried actually telling him when something feels good versus being meh?

    Guys aren’t mind readers. Give him instructions because he isn’t working it out on his own.

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