I am casually dating a girl with potential of making it serious if all goes well. I like sex to be more intimate with lots of cuddling, soft strokes and kissing.
She like hardcore and keeps asking me to try new stuff, like positions, toys, BDSM. And she keeps going for over an hour. I don’t enjoy these things, might play along for a bit but can’t do it every time.
I have never craved hardcore sex like shown in porn, it just feels unnatural to me. I am more romantic kinda guy, who like talking in bed.
How do we fix this gap.
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Compromise and discussion. I’m 100% certain there is an agreement to be had between the two of you that will satisfy you both. You just need to sit down and be willing to work together to come to an agreed upon solution.
It doesn’t sound as if you can. There doesn’t seem to be much room for compromise. In an ideal world you would learn to diversify and expand and she would learn to appreciate moments of emotional attachment, but sometimes it’s not destined to happen.
If you two have a connection, there is a way to meet in the middle. For example, BDSM can be sensual..if you are open to trying. I think some people get bored .. Not that we dont appreciate the intimacy, but we need some novelty. Obviously I dont know the situation but there is always compromise and adapting to a new partner. Yall just arent fully in sync yet.
Take turns. Know in advance whose night it is. On her night, do it her way (and do it like your into it, you want to make her happy). On your night, the same in reverse.
You have to both really want to fix it. And then you both have to commit to enthusiastically taking turns.
If things are just casual, I’d say you should end it. You aren’t sexually compatible, and that is a big burden to carry for someone you aren’t deeply in love with.
You need a new partner. She will inevitably cheat on you. Nothing wrong with either of you, but I doubt this will be long term without it blowing up.