I’m a pillow princess and need advice on how not to be

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1. Try taking things to the next level including acting out scenes from movies!. Go ahead, get into it. It will make you laugh — which helps increase closeness.

   Then there’s mixing it up when it comes to sexual contact itself. Another way to make his orgasm more explosive is to entirely change up your routine. Do you usually have sex in missionary? Try switching over to riding him or other women in charge positions.

   Also note that there is nothing wrong with being a pillow princes once in a while. Sometimes you need to just lie there while being pleasured. Pillow princes becomes bad only when you don’t give in return, when it becomes your default move.

   The fact that you moan, give handjobs, suck him etc is an indication that you are not a pillow princess.

2. Ride him… Push back in doggy… Try different positions, moan etc.

3. Might be uncomfortable to do, but have you asked him what he would like you to do? It seems you are doing a lot of things right already. You don’t have to be extremely active all the time! Moaning, gripping him and just generally giving feedback with your body is certainly not doing nothing. As others suggested, try actively pushing against him when he’s thrusting (of course only if that doesn’t result in him banging on your cervix) or do positions where you’re in charge every now and then. Thinking of riding him here. Anyways, it sounds like you are overthinking it way too much. Your boyfriend is a lucky man as it is! 🙂

4. A pillow princess who doesn’t want to be one, that’s cute. 🙂 I actually usually want the woman to just lie there. Except when I’m going down on her. “Pillow princess” doesn’t mean you lie still when he’s on top of you, it means that 24/7, you show no interest in sex. Is that really you?

   Care what he cares about sexually, just like when you choose a birthday present relating to his favorite hobby. One way to show that is by dirty talk during sex (there has to be a better name for it) and it doesn’t even quite have to be dirty. Imagine he’s a breast man. Then, don’t let your silent reaction be, “he loves my tits, oh, whaaatever”. While you’re underneath, making like a starfish, coo at him, “are you staring at your favorite boobies? . . . . You know what you should do — right now? Grab a boobie! You wanna grab a boobie?” Six months later, while you’re underneath, say “remember how good you felt when you grabbed a boobie?” If you talk like that to your breast man just three times in one year, he’ll relive all three moments, and he won’t think of you as a pillow princess.

   My take is that to not be a pillow princess, you have to focus more on what you can do before and after the fucking, as well as focus on conversation during fucking. Initiate sex — that’s a biggie. Be active during foreplay. Even if you contribute 10 percent of the action during foreplay, that’s good. It’s like tending a fire. 🙂 During intercourse, demonstrate you’re eager to be there by hugging, smiling, talking. Use your hands if he’s not pinning your arms. Finally, during pillow talk (post sex conversation), talk about what you just finished doing.