I cant complain too much i guess as i still have a sex life and dont have to beg for it but its still annoying. Im male, partner female, we have a young kid who is hard work. Situation is we have sex probably 4 – 6 times a month, not amazing but with work and childcare i suppose it could be seen as acceptable at the moment.
Regardless of this the actual sex is the same everytime, ive tried to have discussions about it and she always agrees to try and be a bit more spicy during sex and try new things but when we actually have sex she never wants too, we havent had a 69 in i dont know how long.
Basically sex is me getting her off with oral then us having sex and she often will orgasm again during sex, always missionary and if i start to try new positions she gets annoyed/bored. I bought a vibrator to kink things up, she doesent like the feel of it, i bought lube, she never wants to use it (tbf she doesent get dry its just to make things a bit sexier i guess).
Should i just be content with what we have and gratefull we have a sex life as a lot of people i know with kids dont even have sex.
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Just because other people like 4-6 times a month and only missionary or have it even worse by having no sex at all doesn’t mean you need to like it or settle for it. You need to bring up how much this bothers you to your wife. Not just a suggestion if trying something, no an actual conversation where you iterate that you’re not happy.