My gf on six months was talking about her past relationship and things led to another where I suggested that we let go of our past and give each other a fresh start.
She said no.
Her past is a part of her and letting go is something she cannot give me. She opened up about her having a lot of baggage and that she’s probably not what I’m looking for in a relationship. I felt destroyed after she said that.
I asked her if she has lost feelings for me and wanted me to leave. She said no, but that’s how she felt. She rather have me leave now than later in one or two years if she’s not what I’m looking for. After that we went to sleep and told me to think about it.
Now I’m clueless on what to do. I don’t want to loose her. However, she doesn’t seem sure about me. I feel different now that she said that.
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Sounds like she loves you a lot but is pushing you away in fear you’ll leave her first eventually due to past relationship ‘trauma.’ At that point all you can do is reassure her and ask her why she’s saying those things. Communication is #1 in relationships. Use it.
Your gf thinks she’s not worthy *for you* not the other way around. What she needs right now is assurance that her past doesn’t disgust you and therapy.