An ex texts you out of the blue, saying they have a new partner. How would you respond?

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1. I would wonder why the block was malfunctioning.

2. Probably just ignore it

3. It was out of no where. They texted me through social media. Best option is to block(?) Kinda was confused as to why they needed to tell me that.

4. “K.”

5. I would ignore it.

6. why respond?

7. No response: I wouldn’t give her the satisfaction. I would block her again on whatever new number she would have used to text me and continue with my life.

8. Why would I respond?

9. I would talk to them. I have no ill will towards my exes. Still chat with most of them from time to time anyway.

10. Def ignore. They’re fishing for a reaction. Don’t give them any.

11. I’d be perplexed why they shared such an irrelevant piece of information.

12. “I’ll alert the media.”

13. It depends on my relationship with her, and if we ending things on good terms or not. I’d respond like I would anyone else if things are good between us.

14. I have no beef with my exes, so I’d just be confused. Like, it’s been a while, I’m not surprised; why are you telling me?

15. I’d be wondering why I bought a house if I’m living rent free in her head.

16. Idk I think all my exs are great people so probably congratulate them

17. They’re an ex for a reason. Delete the message and let them continue to think of you until the end of time

18. Whos this?

19. wait a couple of days then wish them well.

20. That sort of thing would obviously mean they still have hard feelings and are trying to get you riled. The best response is to not engage at all or just say “Congratulations” and then ignore them.

21. Sorry…who is this and why do I care?

22. “when he eventually needs advice, have him reach out.”

23. Poor guy

24. Ignore. Don’t respond.

    Had an ex do that to me. About 6-9 months after we broke up, got a random message on fb, with a picture of a ring, and that she said yes. Made it seem like it was an accident and mass text to friends.

    Told her congrats, and maybe she shouldn’t be texting her ex if she just said yes. Later, she found out she had a kid shortly after she got married. Was definitely not my kid.

    They divorced about 5 years later and she messaged me from a new account to see how I was. Blocked that account also. Set my account to private and haven’t heard from her since.

    I was about 10yrs older than her and she was in college. A little freak and we were only together for a year. Crazy was what I needed at that point in my life, but not something that needs to follow me for the rest of my life.

    Block that account. Do not respond. It’s not worth it. Unless you ended things mutually and remain friends, you have to remind yourself they are an ex for a reason.

25. I had an ex call me during supper with parents and then current partner, called to tell me she didn’t live me anymore. I said “Good for you. Is that all?”

    Maybe a little bit of an asshole response, but I was young. Yeah, I’m going with that…

26. “Awesome – hope you are happy!”

    Kindness is always the best play.

27. Show it to my wife and we would both chuckle about it.

28. That’s nice. What did you have for lunch today?

    Honestly, really depends on my relationship with the ex and if I remained friends with them. If it’s out of the blue, my reaction has been “and I care because..?” Legit- if we don’t have a bond any more get out of my life. If you have a new partner, I can d*** well tell if you resolved the issues for why we broke up. Rot in hell and enjoy your misery if you haven’t learned. If you’re contacting me about this, chances are you haven’t learned. Good chance if you’re contacting me out of the blue and don’t tell me about your new partner I know. People’s s*** stinks bad enough it’s hard to hide.

    I mean legit an ex texted me out of the blue not too long ago asking me about things. And my gut reaction was “you found some guy after me you became infatuated with, only to realize he’s a raging dumpster fire.” And of course I’m right. I’ll respond to you out of decency, but I’m not here to help and support you through my life problems any more. I’ll get brunch or a beer with you because we’re friends, but your privileges where I’ll carry any water for you are over. You want that, should’ve thought about that before we broke up. I’m a catch- your new flame is just that because you’ve gotta call the fire department on that disaster

29. Probably send her a picture of Ron Swanson saying “Bully for you”.

30. “Send him my condolences”.