I have a friend I talk to regularly I met here on Reddit almost 2 years ago. She and I have shared a lot about ourselves. She likes the fact that I don’t judge her and let be who she is, and she does the same when she sees my ugly side. I came to realize that she was right, that she and I are intimate in a platonic way. But not thinking about it either makes me uncomfortable or makes me feel some strange romantic intimiate feeling, which isn’t correct here.
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Intimacy isn’t necessarily sexual or romantic…it just means feeling close to someone, and expressing that (in whichever way feels right to that person). My best guy friends and I are platonic but can be intimate – esp when we share personal details about our lives, or we just hangout with each other when one of us is having a hare time
Platonic intimacy is absolutely a thing! Deep, meaningful relationships don’t have to be romantic. An issue men commonly deal with is lacking models of platonic intimate relationships, which puts a lot of pressure on them to fulfill all of their intimate needs (emotional as well as physical) with a romantic partner.
Im a straight guy and my best friend is a married straight woman. We text all day and talk about the deep shit with each other. We tell each other we love each other and we do. Her husband has also become a friend of mine and there are no issues. It’s purely platonic on both ends and is beneficial for everyone involved. Platonic intimacy is the shit and its healthy.