Fathers of Reddit, what would your kid have to do to make you think you’d failed as a father?

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1. I’d question how I raised her if she turned into a spiteful mean girl.

2. School shooter would be bad 🇺🇸

3. If she wasn’t true to herself

4. Not believe in themself.

5. As an adult, not talk to me

   I’m the father of two, one is in junior high and is going through the phase of not wanting to talk to me as much but my oldest is successfully away at college and we’re always in contact.

6. Make the same mistakes in life that I did.

7. If one of them committed a particularly serious crime like murder, extreme fraud that bilked people out of life savings, etc. Something that they 100% thought through, knew it was wrong, and did it anyway. I would feel like a complete failure as a dad at that point.

8. Scamming people online.

9. Rapist, school shooter or thinks Chris Chibnall was the best thing to happen to Doctor Who

10. assault a woman, commit some racist crime

11. School shooter, gang member, drug addict, alcoholic, major in liberal arts, stripper or OF girl.

12. Kill himself.

13. Murder, pedophilia, participating in gangs, needless violence.

14. If my son came out as transgender I’d consider that a failure on MY part by not giving him a strong enough male role model in his life.

15. Too late. I got my Bioshock “World’s best daddy” t-shirt as evidence.

16. Not feel empathy.

17. Lack of awareness on how their actions effect others.

    It covers what most are already saying here, but as a whole, I’d love to see that quality in my children all the way through.

    This goes from school shooter and rapist all the way down to just common decency towards others. It’s the fundamental part of being a good person.

18. Bully someone. I know kids can make mistakes, however even after teaching them it’s wrong and to try and understand someone they continue to do it I would consider myself a failure.

19. If my kid would feel shame or be scared to turn to me and tell me their problems or anything.

20. If they turned into a school shooter or sex worker.

21. Hurt other people on purpose.

22. Well I’m hoping disowning my father has got the message across.

23. I can’t believe this hasn’t been said yet.

    I want to raise my girls to grow up to be happy. That’s simply it. If they grow up not to be, I’d consider that a failure on my part.

    There’s loads that goes in to that – self confidence, resilience for when things don’t go wrong, opportunities in terms of education and life skills etc etc but the ultimate goal is for them to be happy people.

24. Rape, sexual assault, murdering a child. You know, those things.

    I can forgive murder, theft, rocbbery and burglary, but not SA. Although it would have to be watertight solid evidence. If he was convinced without evidence, I’d consider him innocent.

25. Sexual assault, armed robbery or unjustifiable homicide.

26. Become a redditor.

27. If my son ever hit a woman for any reason other than legitimate self defense, I would 1. abort him and 2. feel like a failure

28. porn and murder are pretty high on the list.

29. He’s already doing a good job of it.

30. If my kids were bigots, I’d know that I had failed them.

31. I don’t have any kids, but they’ll have to act like my brother or do something heinous

32. Sexual assault

33. Be afraid to talk to me. Cut me out of their life.

34. Drugs, murderer, sex offender

35. Mullet.

36. Turn to communism

37. Nothing. You do the best you can, but your child becomes an individual with the ability to make their own choices.

38. Either sexual assault, assault of minors, or devastating fraud. Violence I’d be willing to at least try to see their side on,, murder a little less-so, infidelity is a hard no.

39. Excluding obvious bad behavior things (e.g., criminal activity), not standing up and helping someone in need would be a big deal for me. Fortunately, every adult in my daughter’s life (teachers, leaders, etc) all say that she’s the first to reach out to someone in need. That’s my girl.

40. Post on reddit.

41. If they end up entitled, lazy, and with no accountability.

42. If my kid was an Andrew Tate stan, I’d be pretty disappointed with them/myself

43. Being rude to the waiter.

44. If they told me that I failed as a father

45. Become a Nazi.

46. Commit suicide

47. Outside of the obvious violent/crimes against another, drop out of school. Me and my wife has put heavy emphasis on school, she dropped out at 9th grade and struggled till she met me, fought to get her GED, then struggled through college. She’s not dropping out and there’s no reason for her to

48. If my son was disrespectful, especially towards women

49. This sub made me fear having a son simply because if I fuck up that bad he can become a pedophile

50. If I was a father, I feel like I’d be a failure if my kids felt they couldn’t come to me with their problems.