I am the chic who is always looking for excitement..and I have been wanting to do this..but my partner is disinterested to say the least..he is a relatively dominant male..does this activity appeal to just submissive males..or are there other factors to consider?

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  2. I love pegging for 2 reasons, first the prostate allows for full body extremely intense orgasms and I am submissive and love the feeling of being roughly used by a woman.

  4. Being submissive or not doesn’t necessarily have to do with anything. Cis men have the g-spot in our bums. It’s as easy as that.

  5. I prefer to be dominant in the bedroom. I also enjoy my prostate massager. They’re not mutually exclusive.

    Never been pegged but I imagine it would feel good.

  7. I’ve been fingered in the ass while penetrating and it does feel good, not gonna lie. But it’s not for every time. I do sometimes like to feel like the ultra macho dominant cock man and then there’s no business in my ass.

  8. First off, a real honest dominant male will not like this activity, (yes there are some rare exceptions) pegging or even light prostate play reveals some vulnerability dominant men do not enjoy.
    Second, men who claim to be dominant but do enjoy prostate play or pegging are at the very least a switch admitting it or not.
    Lastly, male anal play is still somewhat taboo. The stigma behind it as homosexual all too often stops men from performing this rather enjoyable act.

    One more thing … don’t do something unless you are willing to do yourself.

  9. I’m a dominant male, I enjoy having my butt played with…licked, maybe a finger in there. But I would never want to be pegged. It’s really a dominance thing in my opinion. On the other side of that my wife is pretty submissive and she would never want to peg a guy, but will use strap ons with women.

  10. My wife and I do very little power play. There is no real dom/sub; we just have sex. Every rare now and then she wants her ass spanked or to be choked a bit, which I’m fine with.

    We do pegging, however.

    I like anal stimulation. I like feeling full. I like the sensation of penetration, the in and out. Physically, it’s nice for me.

    We don’t do femdom pegging – it’s actually very sensual, erotic, connecting sex. A lot of stroking and kissing. He hands running all over me. It’s extremely intimate for us.

  12. Well it’s a physical sensation that feels good, but I’d say it is also somewhat a submissive role. Taking a “bottom” position, being penetrated, even taking out the homosexual connotations of it (which I generally don’t agree with), it’s in some ways allowing someone else into your body. That in and of itself is a submissive act.

    Either way, if he’s not into it then he’s not into it. You can’t make something appeal to him if it doesn’t appeal to him. You’ll either need to find someone else to explore this fantasy with, or accept that it’s not happening.

  14. Oh man pegging is heaven the intensity of feeling something slide inside you and open you up, the feeling of your colon having the nerves tickled the thought that a women is about to fck your ass and dominant you with control and finally knowing that your prostate is seeing some action and at some point having a massive orgasm and cuming everywhere.

    I love a women fcking me total turn on and super sexy and the hope I can return the favour back 🤪😘

  15. It is more about the swapping the power dynamic than most other things. Also, why does anyone like anal? The answer is all over the place.

  16. Ironically my partner was completely against pegging or any kind of ass play years ago; then recently a friend (a lesbian) said something in passing about how the main hallmark of feminism is letting a woman peg you. She was kind of joking, obviously, but it got my partner thinking, and he bought a butt plug and gave it a shot. Now he’s super into the whole concept and feels silly for ever being against it. He’s dominant and he felt the need to assure me many times over that he wasn’t gay or into guys, but I was encouraging and reassuring and now we’re gonna give pegging a shot soon!

  17. Many couples do it for sensual reasons as it can feel really good.

    I feel like there’s a lot of stigma around male anal play and that keeps straight guys from exploring butt stuff that feels very good.

  18. I’m dominant and there is no way in hell i’m getting pegged willingly.

    I’m not judging, just adding perspective.

  19. So there are a few opposing factors that men use to not give it a go. One is releasing the control and being submissive to a partner. Another factor is it’s too “gay” to probe a man’s backdoor. Third and not last is the possible pain and dirty it could be. Communication is always the best way forward. Good luck

  20. I’m very submissive and this is definitely on my bucket list. For me it’s the power exchange that I’d be the one at the whim of someone else. Also, my hardest orgasms have been when my wife plugs me during sex so I really want to see what it’s like to go the full way

  21. Anal is just anal. People are the ones who put values on it. Pegging feels good because it hits our prostate, where we have TONS of nerve endings causing a ton of pleasure. Ask anyone who has had a prostate orgasm, it’s like 10 times the pleasure of a penile orgasm. It’s quite funny and ironic to me that toxically masculine men will never experience it because of their fear of gayness lmao

  22. Anal feels awesome, I love it and I’m not gay. Super instense orgasms. I’m working my wife up to trying it with me.

  23. While pegging is generally assumed to be msub leaning, you can make it mdom. Maybe he would like the idea of you using something on him that gives him a new intense pleasure but doesn’t give you direct stimulation? Or him riding you and choking you while he fucks your toy? Dirty talk to reinforce the power dynamic can go a long way, regardless of the activity.

  24. There’s a few layers of mental “rules” that some men need to learn to break to fully enjoy it. I love fucking my ass with a dildo and I’m hoping my wife will peg me someday. Physically it feels good, and mentally it’s just hot, feeling a little slutty and dirty and submissive having my ass fucked.

    So your boyfriend being dominant, he might see it as being submissive. He might feel compromised, like he’s in a vulnerable position. He more than likely associates anal penetration with being gay, and is worried that if he likes it, maybe it means he’s not completely straight, or something else. He could be worried about the physical aspect: pain and cleanliness. He could be worried about you telling other people about it, and what they might think about it.

    All in all, there are a lot of hangups around this that some dudes need to work through. If there’s an openness and desire to experience pegging, they’ll put in the effort to overcome it. If they’re meh about it, they probably won’t put in the effort.

  25. Bi guy, messed around with enough “straight” guys to have an informed opinion.

    There is a huge difference between prostate stimulation and the feeling of getting fucked. They are very different, and if you don’t like dick, the latter is not a great feeling.

  26. Everyone has the right to decide what they do and don’t want to do in bed. But sometimes fears and misconceptions around Pegging can get in the way of responding rather than reacting to those myths and assumptions.

    For this reason I am a fan of having accurate information before the final decision is made. In that spirit, I recorded two podcasts; one for givers and one for receivers.

    • Givers: https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2015/09/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/

    • Receivers: https://peggingparadise.com/2019/12/podcast-253-for-the-gentlemen

    These recordings address all the usual fears and misconceptions, offer accurate information and emphasize the relationship, not trying to convince. You need to listen to it first before playing it for your partner, because only you can decide if it is appropriate for them. So far, these podcasts have gotten rave reviews. Good luck!

  27. How straight does one need to be, OP? I’m what you’d call “heteroflexible” for what it’s worth. I enjoy being in my masculine and sensual/primal dominant with women, and the few times I did play with men it was on my terms what they were able to do and I was able to just let go.

    If my opinion is still qualified (lol):

    If your man has experienced the pure joy of a prostate play, then he would have no trouble accepting (and really enjoying!) being pegged.

    Now don’t get me wrong – whether it’s fingers or a strap-on dildo (I used [feeldoe slim](https://www.amazon.com/Silicone-Strapless-Harness-Free-Vibrator-Batteries/dp/B07BZ95MMY)) , it’s going to be INTENSE. First time it’ll like I’m doing a #2. Allow your man to go through his process. At some point the intensity of being fucked anally and the counter culture portion of it (where we’re both just present with each other and not worried about preconceived notions of man and woman) makes it even hotter. Especially if the woman gets hot with it.

    And for what it’s worth – I started out as a switch/submissive when I was younger, worked on my masculinity and self work, and now I’m an open-minded sensual and primal dominant.

    Good luck!

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