I (25f) have been talking to this guy (25m) from a dating site for nearly 2 months and I’m so conflicted. We text a lot as a whole even though he’s been busy lately due to his job (he’s a police officer) but we still haven’t met, and my mind is all over the place.
The most recent picture I’ve seen is from the start of the year, he’s never once sent me a proper selfie will be of his uniform or his outfits and once was his hairstyle as a joke, we’ve not called once or even voice noted either. I don’t think I’m being catfished per say, but if he does like me as he’s said and makes the effort to message me often, why is he not eager to meet? He told me the last month money wise hasn’t been great, I said I’d pay for myself etc but he was like nope classy gent or whatever idek, but he was paid yesterday and is off out this evening with his guy pals but hasn’t jumped at the opportunity to plan something with me?
I’m just so confused and don’t want to hop on dates with others again because I feel like interests and personality wise he’s a great match. We have been sexual over message so part of me wonders if he’s just enjoying that side of things?
I’ve been a bit of a serial dater short term until him so commitment is a scary thing for me but I’m wondering if I should just cut my losses and get to know others or if I’m overthinking it?
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Well he may be serious and honest, but I’m afraid this is a catfish. He is the ideal guy? Online and from a distance maybe. But if he’s your dreamguy you should have videocalled, phonecalled, and he should have sent you pictures. You should have planned a meeting by now.
You should go on dates. Don’t be that girl that waits for this guy for a year or ten years and then finds out it’s not the person you thought it would be, or that you’re number 261 on his list of girls.
GO DATING! See other guys! It will make you feel better, it will make you feel independent and stronger.
DO NOT SEND HIM NUDES. Don’t give your address.
How do you not think you’re being catfished?