im always met with “what’s your ig? im not on here often.” why is that my problem lol. my instagram is private like why would i give a stranger access to that before we even meet? if its to make sure i’m not a catfish (which i’m not, i look good in pics but look way better in person), why not just meet up first and decide for yourself then? i cant lie and say i don’t have it but i somehow feel rude declining?
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I know!! I don’t have IG and often get ghosted after saying it
Weird. Personally I would need to trust someone way more to meet in person than to give them my IG. You’re likely in the minority on that one
I don’t give out my social media unless we are actual friends or know each other…
Well, no one wants to waste their time and money going to a date that ends up being a catfish. Even then, if I was worried about a cat fish, I would just ask to video call.
Always do a video call!!!! It’s easy and a good way to verify as well as see if the banter and convo exists. ALWAYS
It’s because if I’m talking to a girl on ig she’s gunna be more invested and less likely to get distracted by another guys message. The number one advice for guys that is genuinely good advice for all men is to transition to talking on insta or WhatsApp quickly. Although, if its literally the first message, that’s definitely jumping the gun
It’s not rude. I’d rather give my number out than my Instagram. Just say “I don’t give out my socials” the end
Ehhh, when I get hit with that except it’s WhatsApp or Snapchat I assume they’re a scammer and block them. IG is better because you can check up on their photos and figure out if they’re real or not.
Don’t feel uncomfortable declining. Just say exactly that: “I don’t share my social media on dating profiles, I’m a pretty private person.” They can bounce if they don’t feel good about that.
“I’m not on here on often” then get off dating apps altogether, bro.
It’s usually a transitional step in the talking phase of the relationship. Personally I wouldn’t ask for it up front but if we’ve been chatting on the dating apps for a bit, the next step is to generally get their phone number or add them on instagram. I’ve had girls offer me their instagram and I have asked for it as well. I wouldn’t be bothered if they didn’t want to give it out tho – I would be understanding that they may not be comfortable with it.
Why can’t this be easier?you talk face to face,spend time with each other let chemistry do the rest.
You thinking you look good in pictures doesn’t really have anything to do with being catfished or not. We could also be checking that you’re not a really good looking sex worker, because we get lots of matches with really good looking sex workers often.
Well I’ve been cat fished plenty of times with someone showing up 30+ lbs heavier than their most recent profile photos. So yeah you hit the nail on the head. It’s not about you cat fishing but shitty people have ruined it for you.
From my experiences, Dating app consistency is just low and people tend to use other socials more actively so it makes communication less spotty and more accurate imo. I get everyone else’s take for sure- so plz vert these people by all means. But hot take- If IG made a real dating feature, online dating would be way more fun. Because you could just add a Dating Inbox, and only show the number of messages when you switch over to that specific inbox 😏.
I always get WhatsApp. I automatically assume it’s a scam
Social media is a way to see if catfish or not. Many pictures on apps are old or filtered so much. At least with social media you can kinda compare pics and get an idea
Don’t feel rude. Especially if you two haven’t even spoken on the phone.
The only way for the culture to improve is if we (ladies) alter our standards. Totally agree with you.
Women get so many dudes hitting them up on dating apps that it’s important to us to move to an app where she has alerts on. Usually you should get the phone number but some guys have no balls. This is probably the main reason Snapchat still exists. Maybe pick a secondary app you *are* comfortable using with people you haven’t met yet. Anyway that’s why.