I know he wants to have sex, but I don’t think he necessarily wants it with **me** in particular. We don’t do it very often and I can clearly notice whenever he is aroused. It always seems to me that he physically needs to have sex and that’s why he is horny.
When I tell him that I don’t want to then he is frustrated and feels the need to martubate to compensate, because his desire is mostly physical and he has to give his body what it wants.
Because of that when he is clingy and wants to have sex I don’t see it as a manifestation of his love for me but only as a manifestation of his body sending him a signal that he needs to ejaculate. When he is not in that state I can show up in front of him with my sexiest red thong he’d barely even react, but when his balls are too full he’ll be aroused in the dark without even seeing me.
It’s not very flattering as a woman. Is it a “man thing” ?
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It’s not really a man thing in that it’s not normal, but it can happen. As long as a guy is past his refractory period, then he should get aroused by you in your lingerie, unless he doesn’t find lingerie sexy at all. Most guys have a short refractory period though, so it may be that either he has a long and odd refractory period, or there is another issue entirely. Depression cans do this to a guy. Chemical imbalance testosterone being lower than usual can do so as well. Low vitamin D or iron. Also porn and masterbation addiction, etc.
Hope this helps
While your BF may be annoying, at least he wants you. The situation could be far worse, where he directs his efforts towards porn/masturbation, or worse yet, another person.