I’m a 22 year old trans woman who’s been in a relationship with a 23 year old cis man for quite some time, and recently I’ve told him about my kink of getting turned on by transphobia, and he doesn’t mind it. I’ve had this kink even before I transitioned. Usually when transphobia happens like for example on social media platforms like YouTube, Twitter, Instagram, and some subs on Reddit. I always get flustered and turned on by them. I know it’s kind of wrong because transphobia can emotionally hurt other trans people but for some reason the act of someone being transphobic towards me kind of turns me on. I always read transphobic comments on Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter and I always imagine myself in a scenario where that person is making those comments towards me and I always blush and get turned on. After I’ve told my bf about my kink, he would say transphobic stuff to me in bed. Calling me a ‘’dirty male cross dresser with a porn addiction’’ and some other transphobic dirty play and it makes sex even easier and a lot more exciting since I get turned on so easily by that. I’m I wrong for thinking this way? Transphobia has never really offended me at all whatsoever, even not letting my kink get in the way, I have never been offended by transphobic remarks by other people because I know deep down that I’m a woman, I pass, I have a boyfriend who doesn’t mind my kink, I have supportive parents, and I have friends. I could care less if others out there who I don’t personally know or care about make those remarks towards me.
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It sounds like you may have more of a degrading kink that’s taking the form of transphobia as the form of degradation to be honest
While it’s important to acknowledge that everyone has their own unique kinks and turn-ons, it’s crucial to consider the potential harm that can come from indulging in a kink that involves transphobia. Transphobia perpetuates discrimination and can have severe emotional and psychological consequences for transgender individuals. It’s essential to prioritize the well-being and dignity of the entire transgender community.
Engaging in transphobic roleplay, even within a consensual relationship, can inadvertently contribute to the normalization of harmful attitudes and behaviors. It’s crucial to foster an environment of respect and understanding, both within our relationships and in society as a whole.
Instead of focusing on transphobic scenarios, consider exploring kinks that are mutually enjoyable and affirming for both you and your partner. Open and honest communication about boundaries and desires is key to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship. Remember, it’s possible to explore new avenues of pleasure without causing harm or perpetuating discrimination.