Im not really looking to date right now since the men in my area are just not dating material, tbh I’ve never even had a bf and would rather stay single until I move out. But I’ve been looking for someone on Bumble to “explore” with physically (NO sex tho).
Finally matched with this cute guy who is my type (my type is rare to find where I live) but he’s kinda dry. We only started talking yesterday. He had asked about something and when I replied, he didn’t comment on that (a hobby) to keep the convo going.
My question is, should I just ask for what I want now? We only exchanged a few words. Or should I wait? He’s the only one I can see myself being intimate with among a slew of men I’ve matched with but the dryness is annoying – even if that shouldn’t matter if i’m not gonna date him anyway, right?
Guys, how would you feel if a girl was upfront about what she’s after? Would you like it or would this ruin any chance of potentially dating her? (In case I catch feels – I hope I don’t).
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I prefer honesty and straightforwardness. I can’t people well and have missed more than my share of good prospects over the years as a result.
That said, it’s possible he’s not very socially bright and just expects you to keep talking, but it’s also possible he’s not super interested in you as a person.
Be upfront about what you want and don’t want then figure out what to do based on his reaction. If he just walks away, then it’s fine. Better to get that out of that way sooner than later.
Being straightforward is great.
As far as ruining chances go; probably has no impact.