So I (f28) have this tendency to self sabotage especially when I’m overstimulated and have a lot going on in my life. I will push people I’m getting to know away, even though it’s not what I want.
For example there was a guy I liked recently and I just happened to get some bad family news. I told him I didn’t want keep seeing him casually and he’ll probably never see me again. He blocked me, understandable. But I don’t want to keep living through this pattern of pushing people away when things get hard. I did actually really like him which makes it hurt even more.
I want to build something lasting but I don’t know how to not self sabotage. Any tips so I don’t push the next one away ?
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Get off the internet and go talk to a professional
To be fair, blocking you because of that news is a bit much.
However, why would these bad family news potentially make him never wasnt to see you again? In other words, what was your own logical reasoning for cutting him off?
Keep shit to your self
What do you mean by “I didn’t want to keep seeing him casually”? You were casual and didn’t want to see him anymore? You wanted more than casual?