I thought I was ready to date but idk, I seem to always think I find a nice guy I’m compatible with then they just don’t give me the same energy of wanting a commitment.
For context, I started dating this guy. He lives like 2 hours away from me. We talked for 4 months because I was visiting family and so was he over the summer. Fast forward when we both came back he asked me out on a date. We did meet on a dating app ( I’m a plus size women so it’s hard for me to get approached plus I’m an introvert with social anxiety). The date was good and we ended up having sex. We both have not been in relationships and I expressed the pressure of being each others “first” bf/gf. The first month was good, I would go out there every two weeks to see him. He’s younger than me and still lives with his parents, I don’t mind because I’m very understanding and patient of his situation.
Unfortunately my dad passed away during the time we were just dating. He still asked me to be his gf and it was very sweet how he asked me. I thought with all the stuff going on that I deserved some happiness but now he’s been acting strange. He goes days without texting me or FaceTime me. I brought it up he says “we don’t need to talk everyday”. Ok sure but a check in would be nice right I told him. Then we have an argument about how he’s always the one reaching out. This is true he does always reach out but he’s preparing to go into nursing school and studying for his teas so I try not to bother him too much.
At this point I feel like my needs are getting neglected. I have not seen him in a month. We barely talk at all and when we do it’s over text and it’s very dry. Is this a sign he does not like me anymore or did I rush into a relationship way too soon without seeing how he truly acts? I really do like him but he’s making me hate this monogamous relationship. Also he said we both know the “roles” we play in this relationship that rubbed me the wrong way. Like what does that even mean? Also I’ve been super depressed over my dads death and I think he’s been super insensitive to that fact and hasn’t even checked on me to see if I’m okay or even talked about the topic of my dad. Should I just break up with him and focus on my healing or should I work it out because that’s how relationships go?