pretty much the title. i seem to have a higher than average sex drive, i’ve always been a sexual person and sex in a relationship is very important to me. at first my boyfriend and i had sex a lot but for the past yearish it has decreased. i feel broken and awful. i’ve talked to him about it many times but he wont do anything to work on it, including going to the Dr or drinking/smoking weed less. i just don’t know what to do, please help.
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As you’ve learned, you can’t control him.
All you have control over are your own actions. If the relationship isn’t meeting your needs then you need to ask yourself why you’re still in it. Again: it’s not about what he can or will do or not. Bottomline: does the relationship meet your needs?
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I understand you. I have a very high libido and my wife has a much lower libido. We still have sex, but I always have to initiate and do a lot of work to do so and I want to try lots of things and she does not want to. I know how you feel broken, I’ve been like that too. I wish I could give advice, but cannot solve the libido imbalance myself.
If you are feeling unwanted sexually by him it really affects your mental health. I’m so sorry. 😪
I’ve been in several relationships with ppl and we had mismatched drives. I’m super high and exes were very low. I was always told I wanted it too much and it was usually only a couple times a month…
It always drove my self esteem into the ground.
As much as it hurts, your mental health and well being should be your priority. You deserve someone that at least acknowledges why you feel that way and tries to take your advice on how to help your sexual relationship. Your sexual needs are valid!!! Best of luck on what you decide. 💕