Hi,
I’m a freshman in a mid fraternity. I’ve never been in a real relationship and have only had serious feelings for one girl my senior year of high school. I’ve liked girls here and there but that was the only time I’ve ever told a girl how I felt. I’m also a virgin, I’ve never done more than kiss a girl and I’ve only actually kissed like two girls ever. I have good girl friends but I just feel like I can’t keep a good conversation going with anyone for too long (even guys tbh) unless I’m friends with them or am drunk. I feel like I kinda just stand around awkwardly and don’t know what to say. I just really want a relationship with a sweet girl but I’m terrified that I’m just gonna be alone forever.
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You’ll be fine. Learn cool shit, lift weights, practice asking people questions and practice talking about yourself. It will come.
College is a great time to meet people. I would suggest getting involved in clubs so you can have conversations with people who have similar interests.
Keep practicing having conversations, but know it’s not a deal-breaker if you are awkward or don’t talk a lot.
You also have time! You have three years left to build relationships. From my personal experience, freshman year was the loneliest year. It got way better when I got involved in clubs and other activities.
I met my spouse my in college through a club. Both of us are a bit awkward, and I have social anxiety myself.
It sounds like you are going in the right direction, already having friends and being involved.
You’ve got a long way to go before you should start worrying about that.