My husband is my first and we’ve had a rough time with losing my virginity.
In order for him to get it in it was impossible until he sat down and fingered for almost an hour before attempting to enter me. Before that we had attempted a few times but the penetration was impossible.
Problem remains that we only had sex 5 times in the whole month that we’ve been successful, in which he can only get half his dick in (he’s just over 7 inches)
Is this normal? Will he be able to get in deeper or will he always keep on hitting that block?
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The short and long answer is yes! Things will improve with time and patience as you learn to relax into the process!
Here’s a guide of sex positions to try that may be fun and less stressful for you to enjoy penetration! GL!
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19943165/sex-positions-guide/
Have you looked into vaginismus? This might not be relevant if he is able to penetrate without his penis, or with fingers – but if you are especially tight this could be a medical issue rather than him/ virginity. He is on the larger side – so make sure you are using lube, warming up properly (it sounds like you are) and going slow.
A lot of this is going to depend on cervical position that may have to do with the position of your uterus. Getting checked out by your gyno and getting some sex advice might help.
Some positions may cause him to hit your cervix more or thrust harder etc. There is nothing wrong with a bit of fun trying different positions.
I’ve personally found prone bone (essentially doggy but with you flat on your stomach) or spooning to work. Everybody is a little different though.
Are you actually sexually aroused via clitoral stimulation? Just fingering the inside of your vagina is not going to sexually arouse you. Clitoral stimulation will sexually arouse you. Get a vibrator for your clit and use sexual lubricant. When you are aroused try penetration.