How did you stop being so hard on yourself?

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1. You don’t. You just get strong enough to where it doesn’t feel as hard any more

2. * pragmatism: I realized it didn’t benefit me at all. I didn’t do better, if I was. Infact, it made me feel worse. So it made more sense to be less hard on myself
   * knowledge/experience: Figured out the struggles I faced were not unique failures or concern of mine, but actually problems that really many other people go through, too.
   * Realized that pretty much every adult is nothing but an old child, still cluelessly tumbling around on this space rock and pretending they know the way, when they really don’t.
   * Everyone has some sort of struggle or trauma or secret and feels insecure about something. Body, career, character, relationships, sex, money…whatever it may be. Trust me, it is there, along with a fear of rejection because of it. So in the very best way, we’re not special due to our flaws, we do not deserve a particularly hard treatment, because it’s actually so universal. If anything, we deserve some reassurance and TLC, while we try to make things work and be slightly less fucky versions of ourselves, one bit at a time. We’re lovable nonetheless and deserve the patience and kindness we’d happily give to others, too

3. It’s still hard some days, but usually combat the negativity with saying the opposite or doing some self care activities to make myself relax or feel better about myself.

   Ex. Everyone hates you – no so so and love me or I can’t do this I’m a failure – no it’s just a bad day, you got this everyone slips up, don’t beat yourself up.

4. i realized that at the end of the day all i have is me. when i die its just me. when i feel so alone. when i make an accomplishment. when i like how i look or when i dont. and i thought well if all i have is me for all the time i have i may as well love myself unconditionally and build myself into someone that i love and appreciate more everyday.

5. I really needed to read this right now. Thanks.

6. If being hard on myself works, then it would have worked by now.

7. By realizing that there is plenty criticism from media and people in general so the last thing I need is to join in on that and being kind to myself feels so much better anyway

8. Redirecting your energy on actually bettering yourself or whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish because remaining focused on the past without learning from it is useless.

9. Treat others as you want to be treated kinda works on yourself too. I realized I wasn’t this hard on everyone else in my life. If I allowed those around me some compassion why wasn’t I doing it for myself? I’d forgive others for mistakes, why couldn’t I forgive myself?

   It’s done a lot for me to think of myself from the outside, to treat myself the same way I treat my closest friends.

10. I never have and I wish it wasn’t true

11. Life is beautiful and no one gives a shit about anything. Do what makes you happy ⚡️