I’m a girl that doesn’t have any friends. It’s not because I’m a bad person, it’s because I’m a bit autistic and it’s hard for me to make friends as I’m very shy and avoid talking to people unless they talk to me.
The reason I’m asking is because eventually I would love to have a partner. But I wish I could change this thing about myself (make friends and have a life) but to be completely honest it’s genuinely impossible and unrealistic to think I will ever have a group of friends which I hangout with especially at this age. I understand that this makes me codependent if I were to date someone and it’s a lot of pressure to be someone’s only person unless you also don’t have any fiends and social life.
If I get in a relationship I want to be good for that person and I feel like due to the giant hole in my heart, no friends no life, and mental health struggles I will just end up being a huge burden and like a downer.
Do any of you have a good experience dating someone very lonely like this?
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I wouldn’t say no because of a lack of friends. I’m in my 40s, most of my friends are too busy to hang out due to family and obligations. If I tried to make new friends around the same age, it’s a similar story.
I’d suggest trying to find ways to improve your social skills(toastmasters and improv lessons). I’d also suggest volunteering at a few places to meet some people.
If we were to meet in the appropriate setting. And you caught my eye. I am not concerned about (does she have friends) I’m concerned with (I need that gorgeous woman’s number and I need to find the courage to go say something witty and not come off as a creep).
I’m going to be looking for anything that could be an ice breaker or maybe just smile in your direction. I’m 35, I have friends but we don’t “hang out” as I would in my 20s. I think I speak for most men here in their 30s. , we don’t care about meeting or knowing yours friends. We wanna know about YOU.