Tldr ; I’m in my first relationship,, she’s out of my league, but I’m lukewarm about it
I’m 2 months into my first relationship ever. I’m dating a woman who’s super smart and successful and driven, I admire her a lot.
I’m bi, mostly been with and loved men, even tho I’ve never had a relationship with one.
We were at a bar and she whispered in my ear “I’m falling so hard for you”
I don’t know if I feel the same.
I love spending time with her and being intimate, but I feel like we have different senses of humor, and overall I just feel kind of lukewarm about things… I feel like the passion might grow over time but how much longer should I give it to let that develop? It’s almost been 3 months since our first date. I get some butterflies thinking about what she said …I don’t know
What do ?
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Have you tried being honest with your partner about your feelings? Since you may just walk anyway, why not just say you think you need more dates, more opportunities for butterflies to see if this is going to work for you given that there’s a lot of potential here if it does work out.
If you’re not feeling the relationship I think it’s really that simple. A lot of people ride relationships like these until the wheels fall off out of comfort/convenience and I heavily advise against that. You deserve someone who you are excited about and she deserves someone who is excited about her.