As someone who has always struggled to keep convos going I finally found something that has helped tremendously. The ping pong method!
There’s a video from ‘practical psychology’ on youtue who recently made a video on it and to put it simply it’s:
Give a statement/thought/ answer (related to what the person talked about) FOLLOWED by a question(related to the convo topic).
I know this sound so simple but a lot of people including myself make a mistake of
a) responding with only questions which leads to being an interview
b) only responding with statements – and usually short ones like ‘oh wow’ or ‘that’s cool’
and the conversation will eventually die or get stale.
After just sort of thinking about this in the back of my head today with convos I was able to have one of the longest and genuinely more enjoyable convos with a person in my club at school that I usually barely talk to. My roomate who I usually only say a few words to I had a handful or few minute interactions during lunch today. It’s not life changing but definitely something to keep in mind.
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This is exactly how most regular people talk, as strange as it may sound. I feel like most of the time the real challenge is finding things to talk about with others, and becoming knowledgeable enouth to keep the conversation going.
Thats all?