We just started dating and this is my first serious relationship with someone I actually care about so I don’t wanna make and mistakes. He seems pretty chill about the whole intimacy thing but is starting to get more suggestive. I really want to grow our connection and get more comfortable being touchy with him. Any tips for building intimacy in my new relationship? It’s still pretty fresh but I want to jump his bones already. He’s definitely taking things slow but gives some hint here and there..How can I build this?
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Start being a little more affectionate at times. Little signals here and there! Hands up shirt chest rub or something.
>I don’t wanna make and mistakes
Trying to make no mistakes isn’t the best goal because the best way to do that is to say nothing and be completely stifled.
It’s like saying you don’t want to crash on the highway so you’re going to drive at 20mph in the inside lane, it’s not actually better.
You’re going to make mistakes, that’s ok, you’re human.
>some hint here and there
So the only way to have a really high quality relationship with someone is to base it on open and honest communication.
Just talk, if you’re both adult humans who know the same language then you’ll be fine.
Talk about what you want, what your limits and boundaries are. Ask the same things of him.
Talking about sex is great. It helps avoid accidents, it builds intimacy, it’s great foreplay and it really helps everyone feel comfortable.
In a word: communication.