For those who dated a virgin, how did it end?

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  1. As the man here I hope this is ok. First post ever in here. But in high school me and a girl were both virgins. We started dating and she was going to save herself for marriage. As the guy that did not mean as much to me of course. We were together and getting real serious so we eventually did the deed. This was 47 years ago and we are still married. So I guess it worked out well for us.

  2. Both of them ended amicably, though it sucked. Just different wants for the future and we couldn’t get on the same page.

  3. One is my ex, it was a teenage relationship and ended soon for teenage reasons.

    The other one is my husband and luckily, no end in sight. Wonderful. And the best lover you could imagine, he was quite eager to learn. 😀

    It was cool that I had already enough experience and luckily he’s into similar kinks as me.

  5. Yeah, I think as long as you approach it with honesty and being keen to learn what works for them (having had lots of sex with other people doesn’t at all mean you have your current partner figured out) it doesn’t have to be a big deal.

    My ex felt uncomfortable about it so just omitted/lied about it and tried to just make up for it with confidence (which he did fine,) but the lying about it issue was a much bigger challenge for us than the virginity ever would have been.

  9. i dated a 17 year old when i was 16 and he was a virgin. i wasn’t one anymore. i had only slept with one guy and it was just awkward, clumsy, 30 second long missionary teenager sex so it wasn’t like i was an expert in the field, but my boyfriend didn’t see it that way. he was constantly worried that i was only dating him for sex (even though i had met his parents and introduced him to mine which i definitely wouldn’t do to a guy i was dating only for sex) and even when we did get around to the topic of having sex, he was so insecure and self conscious about him living up to the last guy i slept with even though it was very meh. we ended up having sex after a bit and then broke up for unrelated reasons down the line. i think it was just the small town sex ed lessons instilled in him that sex is such a big deal and once you lost your virginity, you can never get it back. but i remember being really underwhelmed when i lost my virginity, like “that’s it? i feel exactly the same as i did two minutes ago”

  11. I think everyone I dated in HS was a virgin. We dated, made out some, but never had sex. Pretty common when I was in HS.

  14. Dated a guy after high school who acted like he was an expert on the subject. Quickly found out he had no idea what his was doing. Besides that, he was very sweet.

  18. It was fine, honestly wasn’t really an issue except sex became a big thing for him. Now that he had a partner (me), it suddenly became a problem if we couldn’t have sex almost every time we met up, and since he wasn’t interested in moving out that meant we had to be at my apartment all the time.

  22. My husband was with a virgin before me. She was saving herself for when they got married, but after a year+ she gave herself to him. They broke up for reasons not involving the virginity. She wanted to marry him because she felt she was supposed to because they had sex, but she never really liked him. It’s the whole “I love you, but I don’t like you”. She lacked relationship maturity, and it really showed. Trust me, I was there when she came pounding on his bedroom window at 3am.

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