me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months and i’ve been perfectly fine up until about two weeks ago. The first instance it had barely hurt just as he put it in, but once it was in i was perfectly okay, and since then it’s progressed. It’s not a wetness issue, as each time i’ve been super wet, and i don’t think it’s a mental issue because i’m not ever thinking about much else, i’m not sure what’s wrong but it’s gotten to the point where i can’t have sex because once it’s in, it doesn’t stop being painful. Help?
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maybe need to see your obgyn.
You should consider seeing a healthcare professional. Sex shouldn’t hurt and it shouldn’t start hurting all of a sudden.
You need to eliminate obvious physical causes although there can be more obscure physical causes that won’t present during examination. Do your personal research into possible causes because each professional will stick to their area of expertise so you get compartimentalization when what you really need is a holistic approach. You have to your own advocate and champion or you will find it really frustrating.
Sounds like a tear happened. Unfortunately, you’ll need to abstain from penetrative, vaginal sex etc for the time it takes to heal. I’m no med dr, so pls consult with a gyno, see what the normal period of time is, and I guess let them examine you to try to locate it.
Tears, if repeatedly happening, cause:
* scarring
* infections
* sex aversion due to Dyspareunia (sex pain)
* a higher likelihood re-tearing, with even less stress/stretch applied
Most of the above is from tearing from high girth penetration (not badly cut nails of someone fingering you, for instance), so put that in your calculations.
There are alternatives to penetrative sex (oral on you chief among them 🙂 ).