Hi 26F here!
Earlier this year, I became single after 4 years of being in a relationship. I’ve moved on, and started healing my inner child trauma. I’m doing okay so far. Pero I cant help but feel lonely paminsan minsan. Specially, ako lang single sa friend group namin.
I’ve tried using Ome at first, pero it did not work out for me, then I tried using Bumble, I went out on a date with my first match. So basically, he is the first guy I went on a date with.
Heres the story: (This happened a few months ago)
He was a few hours away, so we decided to meet halfway. We went on the beach, talked about life and we basically hit it off (or atleast thats what I thought). He was cute, tall, sweet and caring. He was an ideal guy.
I never really even thought about hooking up with him. Pero I should have seen it as a red flag after he suggested meeting up at around 4-5pm. (Para hindi daw mainit sa beach, well, he has a point though)
So basically, we got a room for the night. I even asked the lady showing our room if they have 2 beds kasi I really wasnt even thinking about hooking up. (And It wasnt really planned kasi pareho kaming walang dala. Only ourselves)
In short, something happen, I said no multiple times, (I even told him that It wasnt what I came for) pero He was persuasive and me being a weak ass person, I gave in.
I thought there was a connection, pero I guess it wasnt mutual, kasi after we part ways, he stopped replying. (I looked so stupid hoping and waiting for his reply)
I felt so violated, if thats even the right word to describe how I felt.
I kinda regret giving in. Mas masakit pa sa breakup namin ng ex ko haha.
Maybe I just assumed?
I’ve gone on dates after this, (I’ve learned my lesson, no hook ups) pero bat lagi akong ginoghost? Di naman ako catfish haha. Is there something wrong with me? Or is it just the norm when it comes to dating nowadays? Or am I just looking at the wrong place?
Thanks for reading my story! I’ll love to hear what you have to say or even share.
2 comments
Heyy wanna talk
Dating nowadays is hard for both genders, better sed it’s hard for good people, because good people tend to be a little bit naive.
As a woman, try not to sleep with a man on your first date. This is how I, as a man, function. If a woman wants to sleep with me on our first date, I don’t see her as a long-term partner.
Be positive, a little bit more careful, but don’t lose hope. There are good mans out there.