My wife and I have been married for more than 10 years, and our sex life is pretty good. We have settled into a routine of 2-3 times a week most weeks. She likes sex and I really like it. The issue is that when she has her orgasm she is done. She is capable of multiple, it happens sometimes, but when she has gone, it’s like a switch flips and she is done. I on the other hand want to keep going for a bit, even if it’s just to enjoy being connected. She says that it feels out of control and doesn’t like her body feeling that way. She does indulge me in some of my kinks like a little anal play and enjoys using toys. I really enjoy giving and receiving oral, but she does not, happens a couple of times a year. But in all honesty, if she was asked she would want vanilla quick and done. I really enjoy giving and receiving oral, but she does not, happens a couple of times a year.
We have talked about it some, and it just comes down to thinking that it is overindulgent to just continue having sex when she has finished. I’m not trying to be selfish and say we should have a marathon every time we have sex, just once a month or couple of weeks if we could go for 30 min or more just enjoying each other it would be great. Any advice?
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So if the switch gets flipped and she is done… when and how do you finish?