Edit: boyfriend of 5 years. He has always been loyal.
Tldr; I read chats and my bf is having very flirty texts with my childhood friend. It’s his nature but something seems too much here.
The title itself is very problematic and the action make look obvious. But the way I found out is by reading through his chats as I was a little suspicious and guessed his password.
So, I introduced my friend and my boyfriend of 5 years. They started talking and started meeting my friend keeps visiting the area for work. My bf is very flirtatious in an innocent and playful way with girls which is usually funny for everyone.
He tells me that they flirt as he loves teasing me. On the other hand, my friend tells me nothing. They started talking too much, Calls video calls and too much texting, which made me a little uncomfortable. After almost a month, I was up late at night thinking about it and just randomly tried a few passwords to one of this social media accounts. I logged in and read the chat. The chat were very deep. Calling each other bae for fun. My bf is like that usually but my best friend was too open and openly flirting way too much for comfort. I am crying right now reading all that. I feel so betrayed.
I know I read something which I wasn’t supposed to. But the chats were honestly very problematic.
I don’t know what to do or how to even talk about it without sounding like a total psychopath.
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I think he’s a **player**, not a flirt. Flirts just have a cute little back and forth when you meet someone then you’re just normal. Players actually try to *get with* others, which is your man.
Snooping is never the anwnser. Now you have to discuss how you violated his privacy to find out he treats your friend apparently like he treats everyone else. You’ve known his flirty for 5 years, he’s been upfront about flirting with your friend. If you have an issue with him being flirty your should have just said something.
You need a new boyfriend and a new best friend. Not necessarily in that order.
Um he’s literally cheating? You don’t just be flirty and call other people bae and send I love you texts innocently? And the fact that your best friend isn’t even telling you what he’s saying to her is suspicious. You should start setting boundaries on what is cheating and what isn’t. Or just leave and move on so you don’t need to keep suffering in silence, Id do that
This is not ok – there are men and people out there who will not do this to you. You will find one. Yeah i spose apologise for looking but tbh most people feing worried would go snoop. He shouldn’t have anything to hide but there you go… he does…
Who cares about looking at his phone. The point is your boyfriend and your best friend a having and inappropriate relationship. At least an emotional affair. Op don’t be an idiot and say his flirty this is a whole other level of disrespect. You need to get rid of both of them.