18F .. I have Some Social Anxiety Issues and Huge Lack in Self Confidence since My Childhood from my Parents’ raising.
I always suffer from many Issues and they bother me even I keep overthinking about them and blaming myself Till I Cry and Have Mental Breakdown and that even affects my life duties and Routine
I wish I had some confidence and could face any problem , I don’t know why did I grow up like this.
I’m Afraid from people and I always see them stronger than me
A recent issue is that in Lectures I have a group of boys and girls That Sometimes sit behind me and they talk with a loud voice about the lecture.. No One Tells them anything but I think it bothers me & I wish I’d tell them even politely to concern their voice
..but I feel They’re type of people who would tell me “It’s Non of your Business” and won’t stop talking and that scares and Embarrass me and I even have a big fear of other students judging then (I don’t know why I have fear of judgment.. That belongs back to childhood too) .. but that would Make me overthink more and more about it
I sometimes feel I don’t want to attend the Lectures and keep in home in my room because of that.. Every time I ignore it and don’t tell them anything makes me blame myself and tell myself that I’ve a weak personality and in the same time I can’t tell them and comfort myself.
I Know it sounds weird how small Issues like this becomes big and bother me mentally and even make me suffering harshly alone with my Overthinking.
I don’t know even if this needs a therapist or another thing if anyone can help me figure out.
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It’s hard asking someone for help, when in the end it comes down to you making a move to improve yourself
though if I were to give any advice to make it easier on yourself
ask one of them, before the lecture starts, if they could maybe talk quieter instead of asking them all to be quieter
I’m sorry you’re going through this situation and please don’t minimize how you feel.
As you said, I’m pretty sure there’s something behind the fact of being scared and embarrassed when you wanna speak to others.
If this is making you feel uncomfortable and affecting your life routine then you need to take actions. I know it’s not that easy but you need help from a professional and believe me, you are not gonna regret about this. I’m pretty sure therapy will help you get better tools in order to confront this type of situations. You already took the first step which is realizing of what is going on so keep ahead and make something about it. Hope everything goes well and good luck 🤍
I know this is saying a lot, but why don’t you try asking to join them?